I’ll admit, I’m not your typical girly girl.  My knees are scarred up from old (really old) soccer or track falls, I’ve got bruises on my legs from an occasional  multiple bangs in the power rack, my hands are calloused from not wearing gloves or wrist straps, I hate getting my hair done, Metallica is my favorite band, and I really, really hate shopping.  I also love lifting heavy weights, the way my heart pumps HARD after a set of deadlifts, the little rush of fear that I get when I stand under a barbell with enough weight that would probably crush me.  But my love of lifting doesn’t make me less of a woman, in fact it makes me more of one.  So, how do you get off the couch, or out of the group fitness room, and into the weight room? How can I convince you to take that leap of faith?

The women that I know that enjoy strength training all tell me how empowering it is.  I never thought the simple task of spending an hour, 4 times a week, stroking the steel, racking and unracking the barbell, picking up a pair of dumbbells, pulling my body up to the bar would be so rewarding.  I’m not going to waste time proving this point, but if you need more evidence, feel free to scroll though to Will Brink’s article on the matter: http://www.brinkzone.com/general-health/women-and-weight-training-debunking-the-myths/  I’ve heard it again and again, and you may have too, but it bears repeating, because the message WILL resonate with one another woman out there, and it could be you.  Girls who lift all know something you don’t, and that you could be missing.

The reality is, at least where I train (independently and at the Gold’s Gym locations in the Alexandria and Arlington, VA area) I rarely see many women out in the weight room.  They’re either on some cardio machine, or in the group fitness room.  There’s nothing wrong with that- I teach a group fitness class and enjoy it.  It gives me a chance to teach women and men, (yes, there ARE men in there) that working out with weights is fun (yes, it’s fun, I said the f-word), to demonstrate correct form, and make the point that strength training can transform the shape of your body.  Yet the group fitness room is where a lot of the women stay. 

The trainers I’ve spoken to all think we stay out because women think it’s “too intimidating” or that they’ll “stick out.”  Though I can’t relate to this fear, I have to say that the gym where I train has got a lot of fit lookin’ dudes.  Because of my gym’s proximity to the Pentagon, a lot of these guys have to stay fit for their routine physical tests.  There’s also the occasional powerlifter, bodybuilder, runner, and average dude just trying to “stay in shape.”  The one thing they ALL have in common is that despite their seemingly tough nature, they’re also among the nicest, most gracious people you’ll ever meet.  They’re usually happy to give you a spot, let you “work in” between sets, clear the floor for you when they see you doing walking barbell lunges, and some of them even cheer you on!  There’s a great camaraderie and a lot of chivalry that goes on.  Granted, there is the occasional outlier who lacks manners but those people are few and far between.

I encourage you to hop off the treadmill or elliptical, and give it a go in the weight room.  If you’re completely unfamiliar with the gym setting, enlist the help of a personal trainer, a knowledgeable friend, a good book from your library (hey, we all learn differently!), a good online support network like the one I found on the Body Building Revealed members forum, or a DVD.  Figure out the best way YOU can slowly and gradually test the waters.  Once you get there in there, you’ll never want to turn back. 




Sumi Singh is a diet coach, group fitness instructor,  personal trainer in Austin TX, and a mom.  She is an ISSA Certified Sports Nutrition Specialist, holds her personal trainer certifications from the Aerobics and Fitness Association of America and the International Fitness Professionals Association, holds a certification in pre-and post-natal exercise, and is a Les Mills Group Fitness Instructor. She writes for her online fitness blog at www.shailafitness.com, and is a contributing author on the BrinkZone.com.


She has a Bachelor’s degree in Biology from Tufts University and a Masters in Environmental Management from Duke University.  The strong science background gives Sumi a unique edge in being able to separate fitness fads and trends from effective approaches to fitness and nutrition.

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